tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3867722047154680921.post1609111523134175203..comments2023-06-26T09:11:21.960-06:00Comments on Wrap your head with this material...: RapeKarin Mitchellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09818964183621543689noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3867722047154680921.post-4845622973210143742010-04-07T19:57:10.317-06:002010-04-07T19:57:10.317-06:00There are colleges that talk about this with their...There are colleges that talk about this with their students, male and female. I go to a small liberal arts college on the west coast, and during orientation freshman year, there are several lectures dealing with consent and sexuality, as well as discussion groups (one for men and one for women) to talk about how rape can be prevented on campus. <br /><br />I'm afraid I don't have the data to tell you whether or not it is successful, but it certainly seems like a step forward.ruthlittlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11093286888138201479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3867722047154680921.post-72188130772050441602010-03-06T06:58:57.347-07:002010-03-06T06:58:57.347-07:00I reread my post and realize that it makes it soun...I reread my post and realize that it makes it sound like I'm saying don't tell women what to do to protect themselves. That's not what I mean. I've learned all kinds of useful tidbits about how to avoid becoming a victim: about how wearing a ponytail can make you a target, about putting your keys in your hand in a way that allows you to immediately use them as a weapon, about not running the same route at the same time every day. And I use these tips. In college, I didn't drink much the first term because I wasn't sure who I was drinking with. Were these girls who would forget and leave me to walk home alone? Were these men who would trap me in some room? I was very careful. But I also know I was lucky. <br /><br />I think Matthew's comment highlights the usefulness of talking to men as well as women. But yes, I do think we need to talk to women. Both to tell them how to try to protect themselves and to tell them how to support each other.Karin Mitchellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09818964183621543689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3867722047154680921.post-16653497834233355262010-03-05T09:54:02.593-07:002010-03-05T09:54:02.593-07:00I check your page hoping for some light hearted fr...I check your page hoping for some light hearted friday quotes and read something far more powerful. I remember these things well and mom's advice has proved invaluably useful. I did have to use it once. I could have slept with a really amazing, but drunk girl with a boyfriend. I have never regretted saying no to her. I think you might have told me about the study about child molesters being able to identify their best potential victims by photos alone. I bet the same holds true for rapists. I agree with Lucy that there needs to be more done to give women the tools to not be targets.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07521822627401012434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3867722047154680921.post-67468246310426033562010-03-04T13:13:50.693-07:002010-03-04T13:13:50.693-07:00Maybe there is something inherently and seriously ...Maybe there is something inherently and seriously wrong with all rapists. On the other hand, society has an influence. If we suggest that rape is women's fault, men think they are justified in raping, and the fact that so many do it makes it seem more like a societal problem than an individual problem. If even women believe that other women deserve to be raped, then how can we expect men not to?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13098304835456915878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3867722047154680921.post-13379542191036704452010-02-25T04:34:35.400-07:002010-02-25T04:34:35.400-07:00I think young men should be talked to but unfortun...I think young men should be talked to but unfortunately I do believe that rape is about something else other than sex, so in all honesty a rapist needs serious therapy. Therefore, talking to women is not necessarily blaming the victim it is more empowering women and giving them tools in order to not be a target for a rapist. Rapist look for the perfect victim to satisfy their need and if women have the tools then they can avoid being the target. At least that is my thinking. <br />But, I do believe that young men should get the boundary speech, it just prepares them better for life too.Lucyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04579411037129623539noreply@blogger.com